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Danielle Burns's avatar

Hey gals just wanted to let you all know my kids survived all my screaming rants and crazy mothering guilt to become fiercely independent, creative, intelligent and passionate adults, (one doing an awesome job raising his own kids) so take a deep breath, remember to look at those baby photos and give yourselves a pat on the back 💕

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Kate Mildenhall's avatar

Love this Danielle! Thank you! And congrats on getting through and the fabulous kids you have raised xxx

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Maxine Fawcett's avatar

I just read this after dropping the boys at the bus stop in another morning of me shouting when I don’t want to shout. 😩 I just bought Night Bitch and will check out your other recommendations. Thanks Kate . I needed to read this today 😊

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Kate Mildenhall's avatar

Oh I hear you, Maxine xx Enjoy Nightbitch. You're doing great xxxx

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Maxine Fawcett's avatar

💕💕😊

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Melissa Manning's avatar

Damn Kate, I love everything about this. The bleed between self and parent is such a tricky space to navigate. Sometimes, I want to scream into the wind that I've survived it (though far from unscathed). Others, I yearn to hold their tiny bodies fresh in my arms again. Amongst it all is the ever-present question, who the hell am I in all of this? Thanks for the solidarity.

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Kate Mildenhall's avatar

The bleed! Yes, Melissa, exactly the word! Solidarity right back at you xxx Thanks so much for sharing xx

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Laurie Steed's avatar

This is such a wonderful post, Kate. Thanks for sharing so much of yourself and your journey here in this space. As a parent of younger kids, I often feel I'm struggling to come up for air. Funnily enough, two nights ago, I first sat with my younger son, the nugget, and we listened to 'As it Was,' although we we were all soft shorts and faded tees rather than sequins. When 'Late Night Talking' came on, the nugget said 'I don't want to hear this song,' but by then my elder son, Plooker was there, and he said 'I like that song. Let's go to my room and listen to it there.'

One day I hope we make it to that gig, and we can spin, twirl and shout, lost in the melody, worry-less, if only in that moment, in relation to all that's still to come on this journey. I'm glad you found such a special way to connect with your daughter. In such moments, all else fades.

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Kate Mildenhall's avatar

Love this, Laurie xx Thank you for sharing xx

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Tracy's avatar

Kate, you amazing human! Another wonderful read. Night Bitch was in my top reads for 2022. Great story and writing. My sons are now 29 and 25 and I miss all of the chaos and frenzy of those early years. I say embrace it all as it's gone before you know it!

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Kate Mildenhall's avatar

Thank you Tracy xx and good advice!! I'll be in Paris with one of them before I know it! ;) xx

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